FACEBOOK MAKING IT HARDER FOR PEOPLE TO MOVE ON – Do you know of anyone that does not have a Facebook account or indeed any social network account?
There are approximately 7 billion people on this little ball of ours and over 1 billion of them have Facebook accounts; just imagine how many users Facebook would have if China permitted its use.
The social networks, including Facebook and Twitter are now being accused of preventing people from being able to move on after a loss; that ‘loss’ includes those who have broken up or have suffered a death of a loved one.
According to experts the social networks are prolonging the grieving process as they are faced with constant reminders on their accounts of their personal loss. This includes items of text, posts and of course photographs that continuously draw people back to the pain of their loss therefore extending an unnatural process of grief.
This latest revelation is not just restricted to losing a loved one or breaking up but also to that of fueling hostilities. According to the research the social networks, because nothing is removed, is a constant reminder to disagreements and again prevents people from simply burying the hatchet and moving forward with their lives.
Of course people do have the ability to cancel friendships and block other members however the data suggests that people feel a need to cling to the past and never more so than within their social networks.
“When bad, sad or indifferent things happened to us, over time you forgot. That is why time could be a great healer.
But if you’ve got this complete authentic playback of people and episodes, it’ll be quite haunting.” Sir Nigel Shadbolt
There is little doubt that many of us have become obsessed with our social network accounts; data clearly shows that people are spending more time on the likes of Facebook and Twitter for fear of missing out on what’s going on in their social circles and of course to allow their friends to keep up-to-date with what they are doing.
Sir Nigel, a leading British scientist, feels that the social networks are no longer providing a comfort to loss but rather exasperating and prolonging the natural condition; which in turn is creating even greater levels of stress, anxiety and distress.
According to Sir Nigel the human psychology has evolved that allows us to forget; after going through a ‘normal’ period of grieving and distress – this prolonged state through a constant reminder is simply unhealthy; both physically and mentally.
It is fair to say that social networks such as Facebook and Twitter have had a profound impact on society; particularly in the way in which we now freely interact with one another.
Our ability to communicate helps us solve social problems and the social networks have certainly increased our reach across the globe. However, we must be mindful that too much of a good thing ultimately has darker issues.
I for one will stick to my regime of spending less than 10 minutes a day of which is mostly posting articles that I have published.
Whilst it is painful, when we do lose someone, we do break up or get into an altercation it is best left where it belongs – in the past; for we simply cannot and should not be constrained by guilt or grief for prolonged periods of time.