Katherine Reddick: Obituary Describing Abusive Mom Goes Viral
KATHERINE REDDICK: OBITUARY DESCRIBING ABUSIVE MOM GOES VIRAL - For Katherine Reddick, her brothers and sisters, relief was the first emotion they felt after their 78 year old mother passed away. The obituary they wrote described her as the vile, cruel and torturing person she really was.
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Most of us cannot imagine reading an obituary that is not positive or honoring, declaring somewhere in it’s text that the person was loved and would be missed; but for many children and adults the passing away of a parent or a spouse can mean the end of a life filled with pain.
Katherine Reddick, her brothers and sisters know about pain; from the moment they were born their mother inflicted untold amounts of abuse in every form imaginable. So much so that they were removed from her care and placed in foster homes where even then, the abuse continued during home visits and well into their adult life.
For the Reddick children who are all now middle aged adults, the death notice was more than just revealing the fact that she wasn’t the best mom; it was about no longer hiding the truth. It was a way to raise awareness about child abuse.
Child abuse happens and it happens more often than we realize. Even with adults being trained to watch out for signs of abuse in children that are in their care, it still goes largely unreported and children trapped in the cycle of abuse are left feeling hopeless, unwanted and confused.
Let’s face facts, not every woman is meant to have children and just because a woman has children there is no guarantee that she will be a good mother. Parenting is hard, it can be tiring and frustrating; and for some parents lashing out at the child is the only way they know to handle the stress.
It’s hard to ask for help, but help is available. There are parenting classes, child education classes, support groups, play groups and so much more. Today, there is no reason for abuse to be a lifestyle, unless the parent wants it to continue.
Sadly for some adults, they never really feel like they are in charge until they have a child they can push around and intimidate. It was on behalf of the children in these families that encouraged the Reddick’s to speak out.
The obituary described in minute detail the mental and physical torture that was normal for them growing up. Even five months after it was published, it is still creating an emotional response from people; some feeling it is disrespectful to speak ill of the dead when they cannot defend themselves. Many more are thankful that the obituary was written honestly, describing the way her life was lived.
It took guts to write a truthful obituary and I can only imagine the pain it caused to relive some of the worst moments of their lives in order to be able to come up with the words needed to describe their mom.
I wonder too, how many people knew how badly these children were being abused. Back in the day, no one talked much about child abuse; no one wanted to criticize or judge how others were raising their children, but times have changed.
There is a clear definition for discipline and for child abuse; one can no longer be mistaken for the other. For any one of us to suspect that a child is being abused and stand idly by is an unforgiveable sin and in remaining silent we are sending a message to the child that we agree with the actions of the adult.
I hope that each of the Reddick children has sought counseling, that the the hurts of their childhood will heal, and that they will be able to find peace knowing that it was nothing they did; their mom had her own issues.
If you suspect a child is in an abusive situation please call:
The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
It is dedicated to the prevention of child abuse, serving the United States, its territories, and Canada. The Hotline is staffed 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with professional crisis counselors who, through interpreters, can provide assistance in 170 languages. The Hotline offers crisis intervention, information, literature, and referrals to thousands of emergency, social service, and support resources. All calls are anonymous and confidential.