Mother Abandons Children in Squalor
MOTHER ABANDONS CHILDREN IN SQUALOR - News reports are coming in of a woman who abandoned her four children, ranging from the ages of one to ten years old, in order, as she puts it to “Check out Hotel Prices” in Bournemouth for four days, while leaving her children in the care of a 15 year old cousin who was NOT present when the police arrived.
When police were alerted they turned up to find that the children were living in deplorable squalor with only bread, milk and beer in the refrigerator. The children were wearing filthy clothes and the baby had a full nappy, which obviously hadn’t been changed in a while.
At the time of discovery the police did manage to contact the mother, who said she was on her way back, but obviously failed to tell the police that she was some considerable distance from the home – the home being in London, while she was in Bournemouth.
Here’s how it played out in court – note that the report is NOT providing names of the mother or the children for legal reasons – full story: Daily Mail:
- The mother already has received a caution by the courts for neglect of her children.
- The mother left the children with nothing but Beer, Bread, Milk and Butter.
- Judge told the mother this was a severe case of neglect but decided to give her a 20 week prison sentence that is suspended for 2 years – So no jail time unless she commits an offence.
- Ordered to attend 18 months of activity programmes.
- Main care of the children is now with her mother.
On the article by the Daily Mail no comments are allowed, for what the Daily Mail states as “Legal Reasons”. Not quite sure where the legalities lie as no names were provided of the mother, children or exact locations. I suspect this is more so that the mother in question doesn’t get to read all the abuse that would no doubt be hurled at her.
Like any situation there are always two sides to the coin and the report by the Daily Mail doesn’t really give much in the way of information, such as:
- Is she on welfare?
- Where’s the father or indeed fathers of these children?
- Apart from the report stating she suffers from periodical depression has she been diagnosed as being clinically depressed?
- What support does she receive, if any from the father or fathers?
In nearly all cases of neglect there are mitigating circumstances and certainly it cannot be easy to raise four young children on your own, but there are other questions that need to be asked here, such as:
- Why did she, knowing that she couldn’t cope, have four children in the first place?
- What possessed her to leave children so young in the care of a 15 year old cousin who obviously had no interest in looking after the children?
We can only be thankful that we live in a caring society where the authorities will guard over the children to ensure their safety, however we all appreciate that sometimes the authorities get it seriously wrong and many feel the authorities have too much power to intervene.
Parenting is a balancing act for any parent, single or not, but surely an adult must take responsibility for their own actions. Nobody forced this woman into giving birth to four children and in fact I would, if prosecuting, ask the judge to have the woman’s mental state fully investigated to see if she was capable of caring at all for these children.
Nobody likes to see children taken into care and prevented access from the biological parent but there does come a point when this action is a necessity for the children and this article is NOT about the mother, her well being or mental state, it is about the well being and safety of her children, which was clearly put at risk when she decided to leave for Bournemouth.
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