THE SEXUAL PEAK IS A MYTH AND MOST ARE STILL RANDY AFTER 50 – I don’t care what anyone says because as I approach the golden age of 50 I’m still as randy as ever. In fact I think I have a higher sex drive now than when I was in my teens.
According to some research the prime of a man’s sexual peak is 18 whilst a woman hits her peak at 35. If you consider this to be true then men and women simply wouldn’t be compatible at any age and most of us would be going to bed at night without the slightest thoughts of having a good old romp in the sack.
Sex is a funny subject really; I often find so many people still consider it a subject of taboo but I honestly think we make far too much out of it instead of just realizing it is the most natural thing in the world.
Sex is one of the few things that doesn’t cost us money; well that is if you are content with a partner and you are not having to engage the services of another for sexual gratification. It’s also one of the few things that is tax free.
Rarely in life do we get so much pleasure from a simple act and for me there is no greater joy than making love to the one that I truly love.
One thing that scientists have latched onto, that I agree with, is our obsession with looks. Of course you have to find the person you are making love to sexually attractive but it has been revealed that many couples avoid having sex because they are unhappy with their own bodies; which often occurs as we get older.
This, according to some scientists, causes people to close down, shy away from revealing their bodies and even the thought of being touched is disturbing. It is a sad fact that as we get older the bits and bobs start to crack, wrinkle and sage. I often think that I really should get my backside out of this chair and do some exercise and maybe just tone up a little but I’m certainly not ashamed of my body; it isn’t great but it’s not that bad either.
Some articles I’ve read suggest that men often avoid sex for fear of not being able to satisfy their partner. It appears that with the onslaught of sexual education and our greater awareness of the female orgasm we are fearful that we cannot produce that coveted climax for our partners and that in turn breeds further insecurities.
With some couples having sex is almost like making an appointment to see the dentist; it’s dreaded and often avoided. The issue here appears to be that there is not enough spontaneity in the relationship and therefore the routine becomes predictable, mundane and therefore avoided.
The more I read on the subject the more I realise just how lucky I am. Even to this day I can’t keep my hands of my partner; she’s just far too delicious. Sex for me, and my partner, is about having fun; I won’t reveal any kinky aspects but rather say that love making is most often purely spontaneous and I feel this element keeps the spark alive, keeps it fun and above all a highly enjoyable experience.
I just read an outstanding article from Professor Lisa Wade who has give reason why sexual peaks are a myth; which are:
1. We are obsessed with the male penis and have tendency to focus on the mechanics of sex, much like a religious ritual, rather than thinking that this is a sensual experience to be simply enjoyed.
2. The obsession with the penis often makes men lose sight of the benefits that come with age; basically men are obsessed with their virility and ability to perform.
3. The very educational system often teaches that sex is great and pleasurable for guys but extremely dangerous for girls.
4. Women are most often encouraged by society to be sexy but not sexual. This is evidence when women who are sexually aggressive are referred to as sluts; where as a guy is a complete and utter stud – yes it’s more than a little messed up that’s for sure.
5. A woman’s orgasm isn’t really treated as a priority.
The question is do you consider yourself a mechanic or a lover? This very idea provokes thought and therefore you should ask yourself how often do you make love whereby you re-enact the same old scene time and time again.
According to some experts there appears to be a lack of communication whereby most couples refused to discuss their fantasies that makes them arouse and therefore produce sufficient sexual excitement for orgasm to occur.
Professor Wade believes that with the ever increasing amount of sexual education in our schools this has over-sexualised society with very negative consequences. Society really has created a sexual conundrum that is having a detrimental effect on the way many couples make love.
I have to admit this makes me a little sad for making love is one of life’s greatest joys and cements a relationship with both love and trust.
Whilst I agree with many studies I have read on the subject during my years I still firmly believe that people worry too much and should take a step back and just get it on.